Ause Katherine had issues of her own she was an adoptee and fretted about being given up by her birth mother she couldn t bear Bill coming home a few minutes ate The Peoples Songs let alone going away for a business trip or training she thought their house was haunted by spirits she developed a mysterious illness with pains in her joints and shortness of breath that reuired a hospital stay and Was any of this related to a subconscious inkling of Bill s secret Who knows But Katherine s referring to a gay male nurse as a faggot may have been a hint When Bill and Katherine separated Katherine moved to Virginia with Sophie and Marisa and Bill remained in Massachusetts where the family had beeniving Bill s coming out was a step by step process He came out to family and friends made new gay friends went for counseling got professional therapy attended support groups began dating etc Bill rented a basement apartment in this house from two City of Big Shoulders lesbians Linda and Debra who became his very good friendsBill feared he d never findove and had some hiccups on the way to this hoped for goal At Blind Devotion (The Shifter Chronicles length Bill met a dreamboat named Paul and their courtship was touching and a bit fraughtlike a teenage romance Bill right and PaulMeanwhile Bill felt guilty about the suffering he d inflicted on Katherine He admits I took what was not mine Katherine sove trust and hope were her most valuable assets and I suandered them This is perhaps the most unfair thing about a beard marriage the damage it inflicts on the unknowing partnerThough the marriage was over Bill wanted to remain close to Sophie and Marisa Thus he traveled south for holidays and flew down once or twice a month to spend time with the girls He remembers I tried to cram hundreds of hours into a precious forty eight hour window Bill with his daughters Marisa My Name is Bob left and SophieBill writes a great deal about his family his philandering father who ran off with another woman his affection for Katherine and their troubled marriage raising his daughters Marisa and Sophie through the years the family s beloved dog Maggie his three brothers one of whom never came to terms with Bill s homosexuality his mother s eventual acceptance of his sexual preference and In the end Bill s mother told him I was wrong Being gay is normal a part of your geneticegacy Bill can you ever forgive me Bill takes this opportunity to discuss forgiveness and how his entire family was earning to walk the ong rocky road of forgivenessThough much has changed for gay people over the years Bill acknowledges that he still sometimes Billy Bragg lies to strangers acuaintances and people I ve just met because the world is a brutal place for ueer people There are times when safety trumps honestyThis is an inspirational story with a happily ever after Still Bill pleads We are not the first generation of ueer people who have found themselves trapped in a straight marriage but please Godet us be the Polly Prices Totally Secret Diary last Fingers crossedBilleft and PaulAll people both LGBT and straight can earn something from Bill s storyThanks to Netgalley the author William Dameron and the publisher Little A for a copy of the bookYou can follow my reviews at Audio and Story 5 Stars I oved everything about this memoir A story about the author coming out in The Majors Daughter laterife after a very Miss Shumway Waves a Wand long marriage and two teenage daughters You shift back in forth throughout different time periods in hisife but I never felt The Touch lost or confused I was completely enthralled throughout the entire book Even though it s a topic I don t know very much about it felt so real Justike a great memoir should be William Dameron definitely knows how to write well and has a knack for details Book won in a Goodreads Giveaway I did not think thos book was particularly well written nor ground breaking If you are going to write your On His Majestys Service life story you had better make sure you are an excellent story teller Oh and having someone explain the difference between coordinate and cumulative adjectives and which ones need commas and which don t would also helpHowever I thought Katherine s story was incredibly poignant People who still believe or ever believed that being gay is a choice should hear stories about spouses who have been collateral damage in thatie The people who spent their entire young adulthood in a marriage based on Different Class lies and who have to pick themselves up and start all over in their 40s Somehow the conservative right never thinks about the actual conseuences to their platitude. Dameron confronts steroid addiction the shame and homophobia of his childhood the sledgehammer of secrets that slowly tore his marriage apart and hisove for a gay father of three that would once again challenge the boundaries of trust At the true heart of The Lie is a universal story about turning self doubt into self acceptance and about pain anger and the ong journey of both seeking and giving forgivene.
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A beautiful compassionate and achingly honest memoir about coming out ater in Textbook of Wisdom life Just gorgeous This book was so well written so compelling that I read it in a single reading on a cross country flight The writing is so clear and beautiful that I never had to stop and re read or try to figure out what the author was trying to say The struggle is heartbreakin Beautifully heartbreaking I generally hate any type of memoir or really anything other than fiction I chose this book because I am a divorce attorney and have been involved in cases muchike Mr Dameron s divorce where one spouse came out years into a marriage I have always thought it was selfish of the spouse not the divorce so much but that they married the other person in the first place then went on to have children He had to have known Why use the other person in this way Mr Dameron s book did just what I hoped it would it gave me a different perspective on those uestions Mr Dameron s honesty is evident and he does not gloss over the pain he caused but he explains how a thousand tiny steps sometimes In Defence of Dogs leads us to a place we just aren t meant to be Thank you for helping me grow Mr Dameron This book explores William Dameron s struggle to come out as gay both to himself and his wife and children and his attempt to wade through the wreckage created by his decadesong ie and find a clear path forward as a father son and husband once again There are so many words I could use to describe this memoir exuisite heartbreaking heartwarming funny inspiring gorgeous riveting but none of them do it justice Even if you can t identify with Dameron s exact struggle his story is deeply human and I felt it deep in my bones It s a story of ove and heartbreak betrayal and forgiveness deception and truth self hatred and self acceptance and it s a story that will resonate on some The City in Mind level with every person who reads it There were so many stunning passages but this is one of my favorites We are not the first generation of ueer people who have found ourselves trapped in a straight marriage but please Godet us be the Revenge (The Red Ledger last In a world filled with hate andies propagated by the Trump administration No One Wants You living the truth is a form of resistance and persistence In sharing his truth with us a truth he fought so hard with himself to bring into theight William Dameron has given us all an immensely beautiful gift IncredibleIt s always hard for me to choose between the monthly Kindle first read pre release book selections It s my monthly gift from prime so I carefully peruse each description weigh the number of pages I do The City Of Heavenly Tranquillity love aong book and try to guess which one I should read This despite the fact that I get multiple free books every day and have an unread Kindle stack in the tens of thousandsbut I digress Anyway Rarely does a book just jump out and make the choice for me but this month that s exactly what happened I got to the 6th offering The Lie and knew immediately I needed to read this book despite its slim 266 pages haha I got it and yesterday I read it This book is so incredibly moving William Dameron tells the story of his Penguins Poems for Life life as a father and husband with a heavy personal world destroying secret he s gay Somewhere inside he s always known but societal and family pressure along with that soul eating inner fear of possibly not beingoved and accepted for who he really is conspire to steal his real ife from himAs his story unfolds events transpire that pull his true identity out into the open and it s beautifully messily painful as ife always is At times I cried because he judged himself so harshly I wanted to reach out and tell him to be kinder to himself but as his story continued I saw that his redemption was exactly as it needed to be He needed that honesty he needed to strip himself bare and begin his new ife with no ies to himself or others He needed to speak and Divine Beauty live his truthReading his memoir and being able to watch and feel alongside him as he vanuished theie that had ruled his Fear and Loathing at Rolling Stone life was an incredible journey People are rarely this introspectiveet alone this honest I felt so honored to be able to see so deeply into someone s storyand his detailing of raw emotional Down to the Sea in Ships loss interwoven with his uncensored joy once he beganiving his real true Wife by Wednesday (The Weekday Brides, life Well that s why you need to read this book His southernsoftbutbrutal honesty makes you think about what s important and why It encourages self awareness makes you take stock of yourife. A candid memoir of denial stolen identities betrayal faking it and coming out Do you know me the email began sparking tremors of fear that turned into a full uake of panic when William Dameron discovered that his selfie had been stolen by strangers On social networks and dating sites his image and identity a forty year old straight white male had been used to hook countless women into believing in Dog Years lies ofov.
And do that uick soul inventory to think about whether you re iving honestly It might make you cry but for me it was good cleansing happy tears I was so proud of this man I ve never even metEven if introspection isn t your usual game in honor of Pride Month I encourage you to read this absolutely extraordinary memoir You won t be sorry This was a beautifully written book I felt very close to all the characters and could feel their emotions Bill Dameron is a middle aged man who finally comes out of the closet He has a wife and 2 beautiful children which he adores Try as he might he cannot suppress his true feelings This book takes us on Bill s journey to finally face his true self and then the revelation of the truth to his family and friends Bill knew at a young age that he was gay but society was not accepting of alternate ifestyles He marries has children and tries to suppress his true character I felt much emotion as I traveled with Bill and felt the pressure and the pain he felt as well as the sadness that his wife experienced The children were eually affected when their father reve William DameronFortysomething William Dameron Bill had been married to his wife Katherine for twenty years when she confronted him in a Walmart parking The Devils Elbow (Mrs. Bradley, lot Just park the car now Bill she said I have to ask you this or I m afraid I never will Are you gay I don t want to be Bill replied And his deeply held secret was finally out in the openIn this memoir Dameron shares the experience of coming out as a married father of two a man who was devoted to his family but unable to go oniving a The Making of a Caribbeanpreneur lie Katherine probably had a feeling Bill was gay for years During a rocky time in their relationship when the couple went to a marriage counselor Katherine mentioned Sex has been a semiannual event for years Bill You know I need you to initiate it In response Bill said Remember that night two weeks ago when I asked you though Bill knew he had purposely chosen a night when Katherine was too tiredBill s sexual preference became obvious shortly before he came out when he developed a man crush on a handsome heterosexual married co worker named Enzo Bill recalls that he and Enzo would go out for drinks and tell jokes and Enzo offered up his friendship readily in a way I had never experienced with a man before When Bill made one too many comments about Enzo to Katherine she shrewdly observed Another story about Enzo You re so infatuated with him The couple s daughters Sophie and Marisa may have sensed something as well Bill was trying on shirt after shirt for a boys night out with Enzo when Marisa noted Aw Dad s got a bromance going onan observation Bill hotly deniedAfter becoming friends with Enzo Bill also became a gym rat adding muscles and pounds to his previously slim frame in hopes his pal would notice To assist his bulking up Bill used illegal steroids secretly injecting himself in the basement Katherine s discovery of Bill s hidden stash of drugsed to an ugly scene in which Katherine Sophie and Marisa ALL confronted him horrified and disappointed All this may have Maharaj led to Katherine s gay uestion in the Walmart parkingot and Bill s admission after which the couple separated and divorced This was hard on Bill who felt ashamed about the fraud he d perpetrated on his family especially Katherine who was unmoored and deeply hurtBill knew he was gay from an early age but growing up in conservative North Carolina with a Catholic mother who disdained homosexuals made him deny his essential self Bill s mother sensed his Kuduz leanings and would say thingsike Don t put your hands on your hips ike that It ook effeminate Those flip flops make you The Stanforth Secrets (Lovers and Ladies, look effeminate Eventually when Bill s mom feared her teenage son might come out as gay she said It s disgusting is what it is There is nothing natural about it Let s pray And Bill s mother repeated this sort of thing on a regular basisBill as a young manBill was well and truly scared He writes Fear of eternal damnation the fear of ridicule the fear of beingabeled a faggot and being beaten to a bloody pulp as I had seen happen to classmateshad created a fear and internal homophobia so great that it eclipsed all others Seeing his brothers happy with their girlfriends Bill saw redemption a way forward So after a few aborted experiences with boys Bill started seeing Katherine and when Bill was 23 and Katherine was 22 they married The union wasn t always easy however in part bec. E and romance Was it all an ironic cosmic joke Almost a decade prior William himself had been The Taste of Ashes living aie that had Camellia (Ellie, lasted for than twenty years His secret He was a gay man a fact he hid from his wife and two daughters for almost asong as he had hidden it from himselfIn this emotional and unflinchingly honest memoir of coming out of the closet ate in ife owning up to the past and facing the future William.
William Dameron is an award winning blogger memoirist and essayist His work has appeared in O The Oprah Magazine The Washington Post The New York Times The Times UKThe Boston Globe Salon The Huffington post and in the book Fashionably Late Gay Bi and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life He is an IT Director for a global economic consulting firm where he educates users on the peri