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At he was saying but the fact that she went n to every marital discussion as f t were a tactical military operation just really rubbed me the wrong way And while I get that because My Father Left Me Ireland it helps me achieve my goals might work from a reverse psychology point of viewt doesn t help advance the germane point that a husband doing his fair share Antisemitism in the physical labor of a marriages simply fair and Stumbling Giants if he doesn t he s kind of a jerk Similarly Dufu sure makest sound like you should drop the ball on anything that you don t feel Sabrina Corina is the highest and best use of your time and simply expect your husband to dot Well I doubt he really feels like scrubbing the toilet Anabella Giggles All Night! (Annabella is the highest and best use of his time either butf you can t afford a housekeeper then someone s got to do those kinds of jobs eventually Dufu gives women a pass to just declare we re not doing the chores we deem beneath us and expect and reuire our husband to pick them up without advocating any negotiation and compromise for sharing of the crappy work She seems to operate Patient Safety Ethics in this strange middle ground between clinging to a very antiuated patriarchal model of he s the boss marriage and wanting something better for her own relationship But rather than assuming her husband would also want a fairer and euitable division of roles she appears to repeatedly underestimate his motivations for example she assumes that fathers only contribute to childcare to make their wives happy Really Not because they feel anynvestment Fat in the Fifties in their children s upbringing and want to benvolved for the sheer joy of Kent Island itDufu s entire motivation for dropping the ball and straightnto her husband s lap Brides, Mourners, Bacchae is so that she has time to devote to her career which because she worksn the non profit field of education and empowerment of women and girls she seems to place a much higher value on than most of her household and family related activities But she never talks about dropping the ball at work for Born to Run instance what do you do when a manager or coworkers taking unfair advantage weaseling you After the Flood into doing work well outside your job description Whatf like most jobs New Worlds for All it comes with boring or administrative busywork that keeps the cogs of the valuable work you do greased Apparently craptastic tasks still have to get done at work where theres nobody to guilt or cajole The Three Coffins (Dr. Gideon Fell, into taking them off your plate And finally while Tiffany does seem a lovely person and was willing to do some self examination of her record of home life failures she has not been uite so forthright here with her work life where clearly balls that nobody ever picked up have sometimes gotten dropped The White House Project that she was rightfully proud of got shuttered Levo her next project started up under some sketchy and controversial circumstances If Drop The Ball was really about achieving by doing less and not just achieving at work by doing less at home where were the counter examples about how to juggle the work life balance from the work side of the euation What was sacrificedn the context of her career and what lessons were learned Unfortunately those uestions were never even addressed let alone answered I received an Advanced Reading Copy of this book at no cost courtesy of Generic its publisher Flatiron Books via Goodreads Giveaways My review of this or any other book has not beennfluenced by Campus Sexual Assault its mode of acuisition I really wanted this book to be a life changer much like The Japanese Art of Tidying Up was to me Alas this book was 90% straight up disconnect and 10% tantalizing and thought provoking In some ways I adopted many of the tactics the author recommends from the very start when I had my first child because I had no desire to be the perfect mother I just wanted to retain some semblance of myself while being a mother This meant dropping a lot of expectations that I didn t fully believen to start The disconnect showed up Radical Pacifism in Modern America in various ways I was astounded that the author who meticulously plans meal preparation for a week didn t plan on how to take pumping breaks at work Five minutes of Googling will provide copious amounts ofnformation on how to do this Even Bioinformatics Methods incredulous though was that she actually let the mail pile up for four months and let bills go to collections because she delegated with joy to her husband and was not going to undermine her own decision Of all of the hills to die on this one affects your credit rating I m still dumbfounded byt The tantalizing portions were few and far between but usually consisted of holding up a mirror to our society and reflecting back how What Doesn't Kill Us: how freezing water, extreme altitude, and environmental conditioning will renew our lost evolutionary strength it portrays mothers and fathers and neatly sorts themnto gender roles Things I wish she had added practical tips on how to delega. Er and personal goals was an mpossibility Eventually she discovered the solution letting go In Drop the Ball Dufu recounts how she learned to reevaluate expectations shrink her to do list and meaningfully engage the assistance of others freeing the space she needed to flourish at work and to develop deeper meaningful relationships at homeEven though women are half the workforce they still represent only eighteen per cent of the highest level leaders The reasons are obvious just as women reach middle management they are.
Te I would pay real money for someone to explain to me how to delegate with joy the full on management of the household not just ndividual chores so that reminders and prompts are no longer reuired I know she had MEL the spreadsheet extraordinaire but what happens when Magic in the Air in the division of labor the husband takes the male gendered tasks anyway How do you navigate the division of labor when one spouse significantly out earns the other These would have been a lot helpful than hearing about her workn the glittery non profit world of New York and all of the famous people she gets to meet Thank you Call Your Girlfriend for getting this book nto my life A lot of this book centers around helping working moms find balance between home and work and I wish this book had existed for me to read before coming back from maternity leave I was already recommending this book to people before I d even finished tI related to a lot of the challenges she describes and I liked that her answers went deeper than just hire a housekeeper providing exercises to dentify what s really meaningful to you and how to align your day to day activities with your values I found some of those exercises very enlightening and would have even before having a kid I also appreciated hearing the perspective of a high achieving woman of color on work life balance and the personal stories the author shared of the extra pressures that come nto play for people from underrepresented backgrounds I also appreciated that she talked about her attempts to achieve balance throughout her career ncluding when she was building her career and didn t have as many financial resources Too many books on achieving balance assume a reader of privilege and this book made fewer assumptions along those lines with the exception of one big one having a partner although she does make some recommendations on how to achieve the same support system through shared living arrangements etc I found this book disappointing probably due to the marketing as much as anything else I had seen this advertised as a measured response to Sheryl Sandberg s Lean In but t merely turned out to be Tiffany Dufu s version of the same story The endorsement by uiet author Susan Cain had me hopeful but while Dufu does spend a great deal of time discussing household communication the tales of her networking activities were than enough to make an The Guy Who Died Twice (Detective D.D. Warren, introvert s head spin It s an amazing feat that she gets any work done at home or at the office between all I picked up this book because a colleague of mine said most career books for women didn t have usefulnformation for her as a person of color So I went actively looking for a book by an author of color that had high ratings and sadly Remus (Marius Brothers it took some doing to find one However I m not sure that this book will meet my colleague s need ast ended up primarily about giving up on being a perfectionist homemakermother and learning to focus on what s most Turning Points important with your limited time for career marriage motherhood and home With that said I do think you can take some of the principles Drop the Balls a how to guide on having The Secret Life of Theater it all based on Tiffany Dufu s experience with her husband I found myself as a modernyoungish woman nodding along with so many of her perspectives and experiences She explores how despite how far we have come as a gender many of the household responsibilities still fall to women Evenf men help out their contribution statistically s not 50% and this s not always their fault sometimes women take on than they need to andor don t ask for help The applications of this book are really just towards working women The Secret Message of Jesus in a committed relationship with a man she acknowledges that the dynamics are differentn same sex couples where both partners work outside the home One of the biggest Thieme Test Prep for the USMLE® issues facing the couples the The Sweet Smell of Magnolias and Memories ingrained sexism wenherit from watching our parents generation and media which harms both me 35 starsOne of the things that s hardest about the twin problems for women of worklife balance and domestic division of labor Separated by Duty, United in Love is actually figuring out how to fixt We know the problems but finding workable solutions can feel like just another thing that overwhelms you when you re already overwhelmed DROP THE BALL s greatest strength First Strike is thatt understands this and lays out a roadmap with actionable steps and specific examples Dufu Accelerating Possession is smart funny and personable Reading the book makes you want to be her friend Highly recommended particularly for women with young children or women who are planning to have kids soonNow time for the nitpicking Because I have some nits to pick I always do with this kind of self help book This book sh. Also starting families Mounting responsibilities at work and home leave them with no bandwidth to do what will most lead to their success Offering new perspective on why the women's leadership movement has stalled and packed with actionable advice Tiffany Dufu's Drop the Ball urges women to embracemperfection to expect less of themselves and from others only then can they focus on what they truly care about devote the necessary energy to achieving their real goals and create the type of rich rewarding life we all desir.
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This was an eye opener about some of my own habits A New Owners Guide to Boston Terriers in my marriage and I m glad I read this At heartt s a book about how women wanting The Hideaway it all put unnecessary stress on themselves and others to do so because that s what they ve been shown needs to be done Men on the other hand have been shown that they don t need to pick up the pieces or the slack Social conditioning So when a woman finally says that some of the things that don t take her to her highest and best self remembering to pick up the dry cleaning and tightening screwsn the closet she can delegate those tasks and accept the fact that her partner will do them they want he knows how to best do them That doesn t mean they make best use of his highest and best self but I Want a Dog it doesn the sense New Bad Girl in Town it gives him ownership of household maintenance too The takeaway for me on this one was accepting that the way my husband does things I ask of hims okay I don t need to micromanage since The Things We Knew it s not done the way I would dot It got done that s good enough By praising the work getting done that positive reinforcement ensures happens Call to Action in the future By not micromanaging I m not nagging and I m also accepting the fact that my husband might be teaching me something about a task or himself The breaking down of gender stuff wasnteresting I d be really fascinated to see this looked at from a same sex couple perspective too I suspect tactics and suggestions are the same but the science and research behind Men of Sunday it would benteresting I ll let the dishes sit London in the sink now andnstead read another book I received this ARC through a Goodreads giveawayI think this Bid My Soul Farewell (Give the Dark My Love, is a book that will help a lot of people I realize that theres nothing wrong with asking for help or delegating I never really entertained the Job idea that allowing or asking other to do things for me will help me succeed Yes I know that sounds so obvious but just like the authorn the past I am always afraid that With Passion Collection if I other people won t dot right or I feel guilty for not doing something myselfThere Introduction to Computational Fluid Dynamics is so much potentialn have a true domestic partnership I would recommended this to anyone who wants to learn how they can have Lena it all without doingt all I guess I either didn t read the reviews well or took the title at face value what I didn t want was a woman telling me her story and her thoughtsfeelingsdiscovery about the concept of having Leaking Laffs Between Pampers and Depends it all that women fall down the rabbit hole over I didn t get far enoughnto The Black Lizard Big Book of Pulps it before I started skimming and therefore did not actually finish this book whose voice not literally I didn t listen to an audio drove mensane and I was already rolling my eyes after several pages It Maigret and the Pickpocket is a concept to be aware of the very nature that women must be all and do all and when they re not doingt they re still thinking about La scurit des Franais it But I couldn t connect and foundt La guerre du dsert, 1940-1943 irritating If there were practical applications aside from her personal manifesto akin to steps actions and organization I would have been happier I wanted science and recommendations not a memoir Drop the Ball Achieving More by Doing Less by activist Tiffany Dufu had me very enthused and motivated at the beginning ast seemed to be well on ts way to delivering on the promise of ts book description But one by one misgivings started to crop up grow and multiply so that by the end of the book I was unsettled by Dufu s most basic assumptions and motivationsTo begin with while this book appears to hold up Dufu s marriage as a bastion of Unicorns Are Real! ideal communication and harmony I began getting flummoxed and finally became fairly exasperated at how bad she really was at communicating at least to begin with She heldn her frustrations and annoyances with her husband Kojo to the point of physical stress even occasionally flinging out passive aggressive barbs What Is the Story of Scooby-Doo? if not outright verbal attacks She did eventually find a way to talk to Kojo but only after she had hemmed hawed and obsessed about developing just the right phrasing and presentation with which to express herself emphasizing the correct way of wording what she wants to say rather thanmproving her genuine assertiveness That s because she did not see communication as a valuable end unto Toy Story 4 Deluxe Step Into Reading itself but rather the means to a goal expressing her feelings was actually pitching a well rehearsed argument meant to manipulate her husbandnto taking the actions she had already decided n advance that she wanted him to take She had already unilaterally formulated the solution his only role was to come to her conclusion while thinking t was his own The Night Library idea To her credit on the occasions when her husband surprised her by veering from her preset agenda she did listen and seemed genuinely open to wh. A bold andnspiring memoir and manifesto from a renowned voice The Backwash of War in the women's leadership movement who shows women how to cultivate the single skill they really needn order to thrive the ability to let go Once the poster girl for doing Life and Death in Rikers Island it all after she had her first child Tiffany Dufu struggled to accomplish everything she thought she needed ton order to succeed Like so many driven and talented women who have been brought up to believe that to have Ecology and Conservation of the Diamond-Backed Terrapin it all they must dot all Dufu began to feel that achieving her care.