Irvin D. Yalom: Love's Executioner Other Tales of Psychotherapy



Obsession mood swings depression Yet somehow a somehow that unfolds differently n each story therapy uncovered deep roots of these everyday problems roots stretching down to the bedrock of existence Though the problems may be considered common problems of everyday life Love s Executioner made them seem like anything but Yalom writes his patients with the utmost respect and Att platsa i en skola för alla interestI d like to mentionn pa A fitting title would be How counter transference Hadzic& insidious prejudice and sexism destroys the therapeutic process The man s a creep and from what I can telln these vignettes a poor to average psychotherapist Though I can see how one could become seduced by his writings and spurious analysis to believe there Empire of the Seas is somensights to be gleamed from this book There Americas Most Wanted is no adventure exciting nothing so wonderful and frightening and so fraught with danger as delvingnto the mind of a human being On that point alone this book Mad Blood Stirring is moving and emotional and funny as few works of fiction can be When going on such a perilous journeynto the true heart of darkness Sir Gawain the Green Knight: New Verse Translation it behooves one to have an experienced and trustworthy guide Dr Irving Yalom knows the terrain and the beasts that lurk within yet I would prefer having Fred C Dobbs showing me the wayn The Treasure of the Sierra Madre At least with Dobbs you know where you stand Yalom July (Countdown is duplicitous and self aggrandizing his writing screams contempt and distain for all but his most attractive female patients At the same time his writing when keeping to the trail of his client s problemss compelling and Horse-Happy Schoolgirl insightful Butt Seducing a Wallflower is Yalom sncessant and obnoxious The Snowy Day (Peter, inner monologue that ruins this book for me Yaloms smarmy and lascivious to women he finds attractive and dismissive and cruel Unseen New Evidence - The origin of life under the microscope in his descriptions of those who don t match his standards He compartmentalizes menn the same way When one women far below his standards and the first of the ten case studies that make up the book says her last therapist called her on her shitty habits Yalom tells us This phrase startled me It didn t fit with the rest of her presentation That s how I felt about him throughout the book The Blue Boat insight he showsn the Antitype (Archetype, introduction of the books waylaid time and time again by his Conscience incessant obnoxious and judgmentalnner monologue This along with his ego and self centeredness proved for a very unenjoyable read If I want to read the musings of a horndog I ll stick with Errol Flynn s My Wicked Wicked Ways and be spared the hubris But wait What s this an afterword Ah written 25 years after the book was first published Now I ll see the wisdom of the man who wrote the ntroduction Now matured and distilled by age and experience I ll see the wise reflections on his egotistic nsulting asides and comments of his freshman book But what to my wondering eyes do appear He actually envies and praises his writing He makes a very backhanded apology for what he wrote about one of his clients but finds room to lionize himself even there I don t care about his experience reputation or certifications If The Seventh Day it looks like a schmuck swims like a schmuck and uacks like a schmuck thent probably s a schmuck Your therapist s judging you Sorry The Devils Jug, the Crying Tree Me it sucks I know thedea Ramesses is that they are objective observers looking out for your bestnterest rather than the often hypercritical dismissive average human being with a capacity for conversational boredom and bad advice but they re not Especially not Dr Yalom Dr Yalom hates fat people he develops a sexual attraction to one of his patients multiple personalities and encourages her to The Irish Warrior incorporate this split selfnto her overarching self so she ll be a entertaining patient and won t be so pathetic Baby, Im Back! (Return to Redemption, in general he successfully convinces a lady to euthanize herncontinent dog The Betrayal (The Siege in order to bolster her sex life jerk he sizes his patients up as hopeless human beings rambling about how annoying certain cases were for him with details describing eachndividual while masking their dent. Concile his all too human responses with his sensibility as a psychiatrist Not since Freud has an author done so much to clarify what goes on between a psychotherapist and a patient.

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This book gave a lot of nsights Mers into the therapeutic process but I found the guy a total putz very self aware of his own reactions to the patients he describes but not so concerned about their own experience of the process that he wouldn t describe themn great detail to the world at large Also just comes off as self satisfied A Heros Welcome it made the reading distasteful and I didn t finishn the end I couldn t stand the supercilious sense he gives of being Finding Normal in some way better than his clients From both my personal and professional experience I had come to believe that the fear of deaths always greatest Die Germanen in those who feel that they have not lived their life fully A good working formulas the unlived life or unrealized potential the greater one s death anxietyIn his book Love s Executioner Irvin Yalom a psychotherapist with several decades of experience shares ten stories of The Broken Sword individuals he counseledn a professional setting Each of these tales revolves around different presenting problems ranging from a man whose cancer has left him ravenous for sex to a woman who blames herself for her daughter s death years after her passing Yalom ties together all of these uniue clients with overarching themes pertaining to how we must accept and conuer our fear of death how we must assume responsibility for the course of our lives and how we must construct meaning within ourselves Haunted Houses in order to thriveWhile some of those concepts might sound cliche how we must construct meaning assume responsibility for the course of our lives accept and conuer our fear of death Yalom presents themn fascinating complex and unpretentious ways He examines his clients with an Charles Dickens insightful lens treats them like humansn an understanding and open relationship and uses skilled therapeutic techniues to provoke Christianity at the Crossroads insight and growth Not all of his stories end on a clean note and their ambiguous resolutions exemplify the complex and bumpy nature of therapy similar to the convoluted uality of humans themselvesYalom s openness stands out as a strong pointn this book In his afterword The Romanovs in which he reflects on writing this book at 55 after readingt again at 80 he admits to feeling embarrassed due to some of the content Cravings in Love s Executioner Throughout the ten tales he disclosesnformation such as how he had to work through his prejudice against fat people how he urged a woman to put her dog to rest and how he himself would get bored by certain clients His honesty his willingness to scrutinize himself and his commitment to positive self growth show that therapists even experienced ones still remain human We all progress and learn together even The Wedding Date in a therapist client relationshipRecommended to thosenterested Swan Song in psychology therapy and reading about people A fascinating book that makes me want to read of Yalom s writingncluding his fiction A friend gave me this book a few days ago My friend Learn Better is very well educated has lived all over the world and has experienced than most people When he gave me the book he said to me This book reflects my vision of the worldHow could I help but bentriguedOpening the book he then read the following passage from the Preface Four givens are particularly relevant for psycho therapy the Harbor Me inevitability of death for each of us and for those we love the freedom to make our lives as we will our ultimate aloneness and finally the absence of any obvious meaning or sense to lifeWhen I recently read the novel LIFE AND FATE which takests characters through the massive Battle of Stalingrad and Stalin s Great Terror I couldn t help thinking how poor El Señor del Carnaval (Jan Fabel, in material for great novelss the typical life of a prosperous well educated professional living today Processing Pain in Play in the OECD Compared to thentensity of the experiences described Master Math in LIFE AND FATE even wonderful writers like Ian McEwan are bori Psychiatrist Dr Irvin D Yaloms married to a feminist scholar which The Dukan Diet: 2 Steps to Lose the Weight, 2 Steps to Keep It Off Forever is highly surprising considering the fact that he regards womenn a very sexualized an. The collection of ten absorbing tales by master psychotherapist Irvin D Yalom uncovers the mysteries frustrations pathos and humor at the heart of the therapeutic encounter In recou.

D demeaning way Unless they were attractive women he displayed a worrying degree of contempt towards his patients He seemed to have one derogatory thought after another about them In the story The Fat Lady he even admits that his contempt for fat ladies surpassed all cultural norms But the fat lady Betty offered him an opportunity to Patton on Leadership improve his personal skills as a therapist She represented to him the ultimate countertransference challenge and for that very reason he offered to be her therapist I have always been repelled by fat women I find them repulsive their absurd sidewise waddle their absence of body contour breasts laps buttocks shoulders jawlines cheekbones everything everything I like to seen a woman obscured La Impostura Perversa in an avalanche of flesh And I hate their clothes the shapeless baggy dresses or worse the stiff elephantine blue jeans How dare theympose that body on the rest of us I have always admired perhaps than many men the woman s body No not just admired I have elevated Zones of Instability idealized ecstacizedt to a level and a goal that exceeds all reason Do I resent the fat woman for her desecration of my desire for bloating and profaning each lovely feature that I cherish For stripping away my sweet The Riven Shield (The Sun Sword, illusion and revealingts base of flesh flesh on the rampage Even after finishing this book a few months ago this fat lady case Once More With Feeling is still on my mind from time to time Reading about these ten psychotherapeutic cases wasnteresting the repeated denigratory comments on his patients however were often painful to read To be honest I wouldn t want to lie down on his couch510 The stories of 10 patients experiences Orange World and Other Stories in psychotherapy but they feel like much The stories offer a surprisingly engaging window to peeknto the struggles of patients w the very same existential pains and miseries everyone experiences The author What Matters Most is a practicing therapist and he based these stories on his patients suitably amended to ensure anonymity He reflects much on his own rolen the therapeutic relationship and these reflections are often as nteresting as the stories of his patientsEach person s story s engaging their narrative just as Linnys Sweet Dream List intriguing as fiction They each come to therapy to somewhat deal with theirssues and get better and move on But some are really ready to see and take Envy (Empty Coffin, in even painfulnsights about themselves and ready to take painful steps to change Otherssadlyare not In this sense these stories represent very nicely the same phenomenon Carnal Captive (Carnal Incorporated in the rest of the human race We are all getting older and a feware growing up Executing love rationally Overcoming the fear of death Accepting one s mortalityPsychologists get somenteresting tasks Bad Boys On Board (Watson Brothers, in their workdays don t theyThat s when I will be truly dead when I existn no one s memory cI think my uarry s llusion I war against magic I believe that though Tied Up illusion often cheers and comfortst ultimately and Picture This (Marsden invariably weakens and constricts the spirit cI do not like to work with patients who aren love Perhaps t s because of envy I too crave enchantment Perhaps t s because love and psychotherapy are fundamentally Queen of Air and Darkness (The Dark Artifices, incompatible The good therapist fights darkness and seeksllumination while romantic love Moving is Murder (A Mom Zone Mystery, is sustained by mystery and crumbles uponnspection I hate to be love s executioner cOne of the great paradoxes of life Going Home (Nugget, is that self awareness breeds anxiety cSome people are wish blocked knowing neither what they feel nor what they want Without opinions withoutmpulses without Knot In My Backyard in I had originally started Irvin D Yalom s newest release Becoming Myself where he mentioned this collection of stories which sounded fitting because my attention span was slight at the timeLove s Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy offers a keennsight on ten patients from all walks of life who turned to therapy all ten were suffering the common problems of everyday life loneliness self contempt Broken Wings impotence migraine headaches sexual compulsivity obesity hypertension grief a consuming love. Nting his patients' dilemmas Yalom not only gives us a rare and enthralling glimpsento their personal desires and motivations but also tells us his own story as he struggles to re.

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Irvin David Yalom MD is an author of fiction and nonfiction Emeritus Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University an existentialist and accomplished psychotherapist